Death came calling
I’m so sorry I haven’t posted anything lately, but my mother was in critical condition the past week, so I, for the most part, stayed by her bedside. I believe I’ve found a new definition of exhaustion married to worry.
Mom passed on the evening of 11-15-07, peacefully which was a blessing for her, and to those of us left behind. She was so much more than a mom to me: she loved to brainstorm ideas, loved to dig into a first draft, and loved the written word. But above all, she was my best friend.
I’ve no doubt she will be sadly missed for a very very long. Some shoes can’t easily be filled, even if they are small ones.
Rest in peace at last, dear Mama. Rest in peace.
November 17th, 2007 at 12:36 pm · Link
Awww….BIG HUGS! I am sorry for you loss!
November 17th, 2007 at 7:59 pm · Link
Thanks, Jennifer. It’s been a trying couple of weeks.
November 17th, 2007 at 9:48 pm · Link
Jan – Hugs to you. Having been through my Mom’s battle with cancer and eventually losing her to it I know how you feel. With God’s help you will get through this and altho you will always miss her you will begin to heal and remember her without pain.
November 17th, 2007 at 10:32 pm · Link
Jan, I’m so so sorry for your loss. I know words are trite at a time like this but they’re all we have from afar. I hope you can find some measure of peace as you get through the following days.
November 18th, 2007 at 8:35 am · Link
Jan, I’m so sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. I lost my mother this spring and I’ll miss her forever, but I carry such fond memories of the bond we had as mother and daughter. The pain does ease. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.
November 18th, 2007 at 9:47 am · Link
Jan,
Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your Mother. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. GOD BLESS.
November 18th, 2007 at 11:05 am · Link
Oh, Jan, I’m so sorry! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. (((hugs)))
November 18th, 2007 at 2:02 pm · Link
Jan, I’m so sorry. *hugs*
November 18th, 2007 at 3:32 pm · Link
Jan–I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. Wish I could give you a hug right now. Hang in there, sweetie.
November 18th, 2007 at 5:37 pm · Link
It’s never easy, Ellen, but I know you’re right and that time heals.
Thank you, Marie. The singular acts of kindness I’ve encountered so far on this new path have been very helpful to the healing process.
Ah, hugs back atcha, Jaci! I don’t think the true mother-daughter bond is ever severed, even in death.
Thanks so much, Melissa K.
I feel the hug, Larissa. Thanks much!
Thanks, Tori!
I’m holding on tight, Michelle. The support of family and friends helps so very much.
November 18th, 2007 at 9:17 pm · Link
Jan, I’m so very sorry and am hoping that happier memories — such as those brainstorming sessions, which sound wonderful — help you though this very sad time. Blessings and white healing light from the mystical, magical Smoky Mountains.
November 19th, 2007 at 12:11 pm · Link
Jan, I too am so sorry for your loss.
November 19th, 2007 at 12:26 pm · Link
So sorry to hear about your loss.
November 19th, 2007 at 7:36 pm · Link
Thanks, JoAnn. My mom’s family hailed from those mystical mountains, and I know that white light is a powerful healer.
Maureen and Lis, thanks much. It was a trying day emotionally, but I got through it with the loving support of family and friends.
November 19th, 2007 at 10:28 pm · Link
I don’t know the pain of losing a parent. I’ve been so lucky to have both of mine for such a long time. But from what I hear, time does ease the pain but nothing can take away all the wonderful memories you have of good times spent with your Mom. I didn’t know her well but the short time I did spend with her was fun & she had such a great personality. What a wonderful lady & Mother. Love you!
November 20th, 2007 at 12:14 pm · Link
Dear Jan,
I’m very sorry to hear of your Mother’s death. It is never easy. I send you my condolences and wishes that you will remember all of the good times that you had with your mother.
Sincerely,
Bev Stephans
November 20th, 2007 at 8:33 pm · Link
Jan, my deepest sympathy. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Kay
November 21st, 2007 at 5:33 pm · Link
Jan, if you need anyone to brainstorm with or dig into your first draft, just call or email me. I’m here. 🙂
November 21st, 2007 at 8:01 pm · Link
Love you too, Kathy! We’ve talked about this situation so much over the years, but I tell you the reality of it hurts far more than we imagined. Thanks for going to see Mom, and for coming to the funeral, and the flowers, and the talks. You’re a wonderful friend–I feel blessed. 🙂
November 21st, 2007 at 8:06 pm · Link
Bev, I’ve been remembering lots of little things today, and made up her coleslaw dressing for tomorrow, which made me smile. There were lots of good times to fondly recall over the years. 🙂
Kay, thank you so much.
LOL, Edie! You’re a terrific brainstormer, and I will be calling on you. Thanks, GF! 🙂
December 3rd, 2007 at 5:54 pm · Link
Jan, so sorry for your loss. I just read the news recently. Take care of you, and remember the good times. Sending warm thoughts your way. Big hugs!!!!
December 6th, 2007 at 9:57 pm · Link
I am remembering the good times, LaDonna. Just wish she hadn’t had to go so soon, especially now that things are clicking with the writing.